Ok my life has been super boring lately so I haven't really updated my blog. However, this week was super lame and stressful and I need to vent a little. I dont' know how it is for the rest of the world, but for me being married has been really hard. I hate watching my paychecks all disappear to pay rent. I hate that I haven't been able to buy a single new item of clothing for myself in almost two years because I've been trying to save. I hate that I always have 4 inch outgrown highlights and 4 inch split ends because I can't afford to get my hair done more than every 6-8 months. I hate going a week without groceries until payday because the bank account is so low. I hate freezing my face off every day at our apartment because I don't want our utilities bill to be too high. But mostly, I hate that I forgot to send in a medical form to the DMV. Why? Because after saving, saving, saving, I now have to hand over over a month and a half's work to Logan City.
Here's the background. I was diagnosed with Type 1 diabetes when I was 19. Since I already had my drivers license I didn't have to do anything regarding my medical status on my drivers license. When I turned 21 and renewed my license I checked the box stating that I am diabetic. I received a paper in the mail a few months ago that I needed to have my doctor sign and then return to the DMV. I forgot about it at my last appointment and decided to just take it to him next month when I drive down to South Jordan for my appointment. On Thursday on my way to class I got pulled over because I was driving with my little dog sitting on my lap. (Yes, that is illegal, I didn't know either). Not only did I do that, I wasn't driving my car, couldn't find proof of insurance in the car belonging to my parents, had lost my wallet and therefore didn't have my driver's license and then couldn't remember what name I had put on my license. Looking totally suspicious. When the cop ran my license it was...wait for it....REVOKED. Yes, I have been driving on a revoked license for a month and didn't even know it. Sadly for me, that is considered a misdemeanor and I now owe the city $750, which is almost all of the money I have in my savings account. Also, I will only have a job til Christmas and then I wont' even have that little bit of income coming in.
Ok. Done complaining. I am just frustrated with myself. And frustrated that I care. I shouldn't care about money. I know John and I will be fine and I'm glad we are married now so we technically don't need to buy each other Christmas presents (hehe). But seriously. The week sucked. P.S. I do love being married. I just hate money.
Oh Liv, I am SO sorry to hear about your driver's license - that absolutely DOES stink, no way around it. However, I just want you to know you are SO not alone in the struggles with finances as a newly wed. I remember when I was in high school and a bunch of my girl friends were talking about what it would be like to be newly weds and I said, "I can't wait to be so poor, but so in love that it doesn't matter!" and Abby Jeppesen (now Broadbent) got tears in her eyes and wailed, "I don't WANT to be poor!!" Ha ha! Funny memory, but seriously, this is just part of the fun of being young and married. You're right, it does stink to have 4-inch growth and no news clothes (again - SO been there and in fact, we're still partially there as all extra goes to pay off student loans), but I promise, this stage will not last forever. Try to enjoy all the crazy things you do now to scrimp and save and you will be able to look back with pride on how you and John worked together as a team and made it through. These are seriously some of the best days! Ok, I don't mean to be preachy at all, but I just want to encourage you to keep your chin up and please know you are not alone! Love you!
ReplyDeleteKeep your head up Liv! and you guys can totally come over for dinner when you don't want to go grocery shopping we always have plenty of extras!
ReplyDeleteIt's been 6 years and we're still in that boat. I am rocking 4 inches of roots at this very moment. Just when things started to look up financially, we started to have to pay student loans, and then bought a car and a house...so now we're back to where we started...haha.
ReplyDeleteWe're there too. I've gotten really good at cooking with ramon, finding free date nights, and figuring out ways to avoid going naked. :) I'll be glad when we are finally done with school and going grocery shopping doesn't give me an anxiety attack! And I told Mike he'd better be planning diamonds for our tenth anniversary. Haha.
ReplyDeleteAnd I really do feel sad for you about your license, but I made Mike read your post because the way you told it was so funny! And I think they shouldn't be able enforce the dog-on-the-lap rule. I've never heard it before and it certainly wasn't in my driver's ed manual! :)
What's the best about these experiences, (and I know, you're probably like...oh crap...an optimistic comment? But please, read on) is that once you've paid a big bill, and have been living on a budget happily for a few months, (happily, meaning, you realize you don't require as many things as you thought) the Lord humbles and blesses us extrememly, that when your husband does get a raise, or an unexpected opportunity comes up, you feel abundantly blessed with having just a little bit more than you usually have! If that even makes sense. These trials are to test us, help us, and dare I say it, build character ;) and experience so that when others go through similar experiences, we can help them too! It's a cycle. Anyway, chin up, and keep hanging in there. One day this lame week will seem funny. :) Love ya.
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